A few tips for my fellow ladies….
It is easy to imagine that marriages flow without much effort. The opposite is true, as there are some things you may do to your partner that will cause rifts and discomfort within the relationship. This post is dedicated to all the fair ladies and has a few man-made tips that I have learnt (and continue to learn) over the years. Enjoy the read!
- N-A-G
I know you do not want to say that word aloud. Be honest, though – you must have nagged your partner at least once in your marriage. “Do this, do that, you forgot, you have to, you need to, why didn’t you” are words that constitute nagging. Please leave the guy alone. Tell him once or twice, and if he forgets, find a creative way to help him remember what you have told him.
- Take off The Boss Hat
Girl, I have great news for you. If you are married, you must learn to let your man take charge. Just like in your workplace where there is only one boss, similarly, there can only be one head of the home. Give your man the boss hat, and be his loving and able assistant. A quick trick – if you ‘let’ him take charge, he will consult you on major decisions more frequently, and you will end up having your way in the end!
- Do Not Try To Be His Maker
Many women believe they can change their men into the perfect husbands. Unfortunately, most men do not want to be changed. A man will only change if he sees the logic behind mending his ways, and this motivation can only come from within, and from God. Now – since you are not his inner voice, and you are not God, leave him be. If there is some area in which you really desire him to change, however, talk to HIS maker about it!
- Be the Listener
Oh my, don’t we all love to talk, especially when there is an adoring partner ready to listen? Hold that thought – when does he get to talk? Ladies…please give your man a chance to say something. Listen to what he is saying, even if he is talking about the traffic jam, the latest car, or the weather. Cultivate a relationship where you can listen as well as be listened to. Note that if you don’t listen to him, he will look for a listening ear out there.
- Let Him Breathe
You don’t have to do everything together or be together all the time to stay in love. Before you got together, you both had lives, right? Give your man space to pursue his own interests, to meet his friends, and to do his own thing. Don’t suffocate him by following him everywhere; instead get busy with your own stuff so that you will both have lots to catch up on when you get home. Trust me – this approach works!
Ladies – try the tips above in your marriages, and be prepared for the awesome results! Give your man the freedom to grow and thrive in your relationship. Most importantly, let God be at the center of your marriage. When you put God at the center, you can trust him to take care of all the issues that you will face as a couple.